Wednesday, September 14, 2005

Looking for the good in someone.

Here is some advice I have heard. Some of it is really good. Some of it is easy to live by. Some of it may not seem probable. Some of it is my own advice to myself that I wanted to share….I don’t think it ever hurts to look for the good in someone!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
It will be a truly rewarding experience. A note on expectations…. my Priest told me once, and I will never forget, “Do not have expectations of people and you won’t ever be disappointed”. Do you know how hard that is? I have tried. Just think of something, say for instance your birthday. Don’t you at least expect those that know it is your birthday to at least say “Happy Birthday”? That is some advice that is really hard to live by.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Communication is key in a relationship. It doesn’t hurt to love the other stuff too :)

Look for the good in someone.
When you are in a relationship, the longer you are with that person, the easier it is to see their faults. Always look for the good in someone, because it is there and that is what keeps a relationship going.

Don't believe all you hear.
The media has been a good example of this. That might be one of my biggest problems, I have been told I am too trusting, however, I believe that is better than being one of those people that don’t believe anything.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Those words should not be taken lightly…and I tell him EVERY DAY.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
It is important to say it when appropriate. Do not let pride stand in the way. No one is perfect.

Believe in love at first sight.
I do! :)

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely.
You will never have it if you do not try. Give it everything you have.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.
It is easy to say things in anger that you do not truly mean. It makes a cut deeper.

Don't judge people by their relatives!
I know from my own family, that I am different from my brother and sister.

Talk slowly but think quickly.
There is less chance you will say something you don’t mean.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?”
Hahaha! Just a polite way of saying, “None of your business”.

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
If you want it, you have to go for it.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
We can learn from every situation.

Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will. If you don’t have respect for others, don’t expect it from others. If you do it, own it.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Pride, don’t let it stand in the way of a friendship or a relationship. We all have pride, but if you cherish your friends/relationship, it is not worth losing them over a dispute.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
It is better to reconcile a mistake than to let it go. People will have more admiration towards you.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Sounds silly, but it is true. Just try it.

Spend some time alone.
It is important to take care of yourself too.


The Everglades said...

If my girlfriend judged me by my relatives, I might've been dumped a long time ago, hahaha.


Lee Ann said...

Blake ~ I am sure they are not that bad!

ticharu said...

Pretty sage stuff. Yer priest sounded like a Taoist. I can't think of a punch line.
Your site follows Badgod's site in my bookmarks, and I'm kinda bummed that he's calling it quits, I think he is depressed. Wish there was something I could do.

The Zombie Lama said...

Ahhh all these rules!!!!


Actually, the advice from your Priest is quite good, but as you said, very hard in practice.

Justice said...

I think that is some great advice. Thanks for sharing.

hotboy said...

What a great post! Really liked reading that.Hotboy

hotboy said...

What a great post! Really liked reading that.Hotboy P.S. Spend some time alone? Be happy in an empty room? Hope this doesn'r appear on your blog twice!

Kay Ray said...

I agree with it all!! I love reading your stuff!!

yeah i feel the same about Badgod's site ticharu,,, That sucks!!!

We just all need to stick together :)

Fred said...

About this one: "When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it."

I'm obsessed with doing exactly that. It's a curse sometimes, because I'll lose sleep until I can see the person the next morning to correct a problem. But, it's a part of me that I like very much. It's better for everyone to own up to the problem and fix it ASAP.

Great list. It’s coming out of the printer now so I can share with some of my students. (If it's OK with you, of course.)

Lee Ann said...

Ticharu ~ "Sage"-good word and thank you. Glad you have bookmarked me, you are bookmarked as well! He is surprisingly a very young Priest (Episcopal). I think he could be a pretty good philosopher. I know, I am sad about BadGod leaving. He was the first one to post on my blog. It was my 3rd post(12 days after my first one). It was a great true story about a Tailgater! Anyway, I was surprised that someone had made a comment, and that started it all for me. "He was my first"! I will miss him, but glad to have all my other friends here. Maybe he will visit.

Zombie ~ I know, I know...the rules. Fortunately, most of the advice I wrote was pretty much common sense, so they aren't hard to remember. It is just whether you want to adhere or not. Might not be for everyone!

Justice ~ Thanks! Glad you came by.

Hotboy ~ Of all the people here, I think you understand that one the most. Ra Bliss can be achieved completely by yourself meditating, right? I think it is important to know yourself and be happy with yourself.

Kay Ray ~ Thanks, I enjoy your stuff too. You are right, we need to stick together.

Fred ~ That is awesome. It is hard for some people to admit when they are wrong. I also try to live by this. I am always concerned with other people's feelings and thoughts. I am glad you can use this for your class.

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robmcj said...

For once I agree with hotboy. What great advice! And without sounding like you're lecturing. I sometimes do about half the things on your list. I'll need to try the other half.

The one that comes naturally to me as a Scot is "Expect nothing and you won’t ever be disappointed"

Lee Ann said...

robmcj ~ Thanks! If you do not have expectations of others, than you are achieving the hardest one in my opinion. Great! As I have more years behind me :), the less expectations I have of others, but I have to admit that I do have some expectations. It is a pleasant surprise when someone exceeds your expectations.

Becky said...

Great advice, you are definitely a kindred spirit! :-D

The Husband said...

its always nice to read stuff like that.

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Dave Morris said...

Interesting food for thought. Gosh, I won't need my therapist this week!

Lee Ann said...

becky ~ thanks!

Carl ~ Thanks for checkin' in!

Dave ~ Just to make sure you know, I am not a professional! hehehe Thanks for coming by!

Goan Pao said...

Im enlightened by the rulles Oh great buddha....hope the rules help me get Nirvana...
No Nirvana is not a girls name nor am I talking about the band coz i aldready have all their stuff...
the best line for me was the one about expectations...
Ive take it a step further and am going to stop expecting things from myself as well as others...that way i dissapoint people but not myself...

Lee Ann said...

goan pao ~ Hey now that is a way to look at it! :)

BeckEye said...

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

I answer the phone all day at work. I physically can't smile while doing it.

Lee Ann said...

Beckeye ~ I know what you mean, I barely talk on the phone once I get home. Work is enough!

mojoala said...

I can echoe everglades comment.

If one was to follows all of these verbatim complaince, enough good would overflow to others and truely make this world a great place....

Ilaiy said...

If people follow atleast a part of this .. May be marriages would def* work out ..


jiggs said...

You know what's weird? I really thought I had already commented on this, but I guess I hadn't.