Looking for the good in someone.

Here is some advice I have heard. Some of it is really good. Some of it is easy to live by. Some of it may not seem probable. Some of it is my own advice to myself that I wanted to share….I don’t think it ever hurts to look for the good in someone!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
It will be a truly rewarding experience. A note on expectations…. my Priest told me once, and I will never forget, “Do not have expectations of people and you won’t ever be disappointed”. Do you know how hard that is? I have tried. Just think of something, say for instance your birthday. Don’t you at least expect those that know it is your birthday to at least say “Happy Birthday”? That is some advice that is really hard to live by.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
Communication is key in a relationship. It doesn’t hurt to love the other stuff too :)

Look for the good in someone.
When you are in a relationship, the longer you are with that person, the easier it is to see their faults. Always look for the good in someone, because it is there and that is what keeps a relationship going.

Don't believe all you hear.
The media has been a good example of this. That might be one of my biggest problems, I have been told I am too trusting, however, I believe that is better than being one of those people that don’t believe anything.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.
Those words should not be taken lightly…and I tell him EVERY DAY.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
It is important to say it when appropriate. Do not let pride stand in the way. No one is perfect.

Believe in love at first sight.
I do! :)

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely.
You will never have it if you do not try. Give it everything you have.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.
It is easy to say things in anger that you do not truly mean. It makes a cut deeper.

Don't judge people by their relatives!
I know from my own family, that I am different from my brother and sister.

Talk slowly but think quickly.
There is less chance you will say something you don’t mean.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?”
Hahaha! Just a polite way of saying, “None of your business”.

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
If you want it, you have to go for it.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
We can learn from every situation.

Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will. If you don’t have respect for others, don’t expect it from others. If you do it, own it.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Pride, don’t let it stand in the way of a friendship or a relationship. We all have pride, but if you cherish your friends/relationship, it is not worth losing them over a dispute.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
It is better to reconcile a mistake than to let it go. People will have more admiration towards you.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Sounds silly, but it is true. Just try it.

Spend some time alone.
It is important to take care of yourself too.