Monday, September 19, 2005

What some women want (or need)!

I am just curious about something. They make a little pill for WOMEN to control birth. Why hasn’t there ever been a pill created for a man to control birth? It takes a man and a woman equally to create birth. My guess is that the current “birth control pill” is so effective, everyone is satisfied and there has been no “push” to do otherwise. Ok, that was just a question, now on to what I am really going to talk about.

Now, they have a new “blue” pill for MEN. I am pretty sure everyone is familiar with this little pill, as it is highly advertised. This little blue pill is for men and their sexual dysfunction. Studies have shown that more women suffer from sexual dysfunction than men, but the pharmaceutical industry has failed women miserably. There are no drugs to help women in this area, to date. Pfizer, Inc. did an eight year study to see if the Viagra would be beneficial for women. Conclusion that the little blue pill only works for men. The way Viagra works is that it increases blood flow down below. This effect is the same for men and women. This works great for men, but this alone rarely satisfied women.

Beverly Whipple, the sex researcher who co-wrote “The G-Spot” said “I hate to say it, but women are much more complex than men”.

The latest research indicates women with sexual dysfunction need a neurological solution. When it comes to achieving orgasms, women are more affected by mood and self-esteem than men. That has led researchers to brain scanning and other technology. Yes, they are watching women’s brains while they have orgasms.

................Uh, sorry, I was just trying to picture this!

Ok, back to some of the interesting conclusions of these studies.
They have found that the vagus nerve appears to be important. This nerve, which is outside the spinal cord, carries information to areas of the brain that control mood. The vagus nerve may be the new target for drugs.

These brain scans found the areas of the brain that are activated from orgasm in women, which are measured by the blood flow. When brain cells start firing in a part of the brain that governs a particular emotion or activity, they need more oxygen, which is carried by the blood.

The scans also revealed something else about women. During orgasm, the pain centers in the brain shut down. The pleasure centers (the same ones that become active when people ingest cocaine) light up.
Oh my goodness….if that is what cocaine does to you, I am glad I don’t do it, because I would definitely be addicted!

But a big problem with these scans is that no machine is designed to simultaneously monitor both the brain and the body. And even if they could, the images’ clarity would be muddied by “background noise” such as hand movements. Hmmmm, guess that would be a problem!

Barry Komisaruk, a researcher, is currently studying the brains of women who can self-stimulate purely through thought, a rare attribute that eliminates the “background noise” as he seeks to find out exactly what makes women tick during sex.
Wow! That is an interesting trick, I must say. Hotboy, is that along the lines of “Ra Bliss”?
Now, let’s think about this for a minute. Ladies….BeckEye, Becky, Echeevo72, Kay Ray, Spinning Girl, Alecia (and all of the rest of you ladies, sorry if I left you out), imagine if you were having a bad day at the office (like Frank did the other day). Just gather yourself; take a few minutes…..and life would be wonderful once again. Now, I know it couldn’t be that easy, but just think if it were! There would be no such thing as PMS. Robmcj, just think if it were that easy, your post about being young in the tub might have been different. *grin*
Ok guys (Dave, Carl, Mike, Mojo, Zombie, Blake) I am sure you have some type of comment, let’s hear it! :) As rare as self stimulation through thought is for women, do you think it is something men could do? I think it would be more difficult for men to achieve this because a man is respondent to the physical aspect of sex whereas a woman is receptive to the emotional aspect.

Gert Holstege, a leading sexual researcher at Groningen University in The Netherlands was quoted as saying “The strange thing is that everyone knows that it all happens between the ears and not between the legs.”
“Among other results, Holstege found that the part of the brain thought to control fear and anxiety~the amygdala~deactivated during orgasm for both women and men. He acknowledged that his data for men is a little suspect, however, because they don’t orgasm long enough to take a proper brain scan.” I find that interesting. So, does that mean a woman's orgasm lasts longer than a man's?
Sex research using brain scans is only just getting started, and scientists warn that any potential new drugs, or even better diagnoses of sexual dysfunction , are years away.

Jef ~ I feel sure if a cure can be found for sexual dysfunction in women, that it would be helpful in obtaining a harmonious relationship, right? (I know... among many other factors)
Ticharu ~ something philosophical to add?

What about you Fred, Jiggs, RCS, Goan Pao, Justice, Anorion, ilaiy?

I consider myself fortunate to not experience this problem. At least I have comfort in knowing that if I ever had to rely on some help that it is in the works!

44 comments:

Ticharu said...

A juicy post like this, and the first three comments are spam! I love it!
Drug addiction has everything to do with stimulating the reptile brain. Love is a drug. Sex and orgasm, totally interconnected with being an animal and seeking out the 'high' asociated with feeling 'love' and having an orgasm. We loose not only the ability to feel pain, but most of our critical faculties as well. I find it helpful knowing this when I'm fighting off hords of beautiful women!
The pharicuedical companies are evil sons of bitches who kill over 100,000 people every year with their experiments.
Sexual dysfunction is mostly a result of bad diet, lack of excercise, natural aging process, mental hang-ups, brainwashing, and abuse. Some of that is self inflicted and most of that is stuff you can fix yourself.
I'll get off the soap box now.

Carl Spackler said...

i have read stuff like this before. great topic! i'm sure there will be plenty of female products for "dysfunction" very soon. as for self stimulation...i guess it helps to have a good imagination. being creative is probably a good thing as well.

Hotboy said...

It's maybe not whether you can start it, but can you stop it? Does it stop by itself. Wanting. Desire.Why can't you just get the perfect moment and remember it? Where is the satiation and contentment? Does the wanting just go on and on? I'd like to be comfortable in the moment, but I have a huge addiction maintenace programme to upkeep so I've got to rush forth. Eventually, blindness will occur apparently! Hotboy

Hotboy said...

Okay, Lee Anne! Women who can self-stimulate through thought ... is it the same as getting ra bliss? Being old enough (and I was there!) and partaking in the usual sexual revolution as everyone else my age, (54 just now!), I only ever understood female sexuality when I started downloading porny MPGs from the net. It is a wonderment. Martians are a wonderment. This is beyond understanding for a person with different equipment.
But ra bliss is ra bliss. You cannot say eating a steak is the same as eating the whole cow. Any pleasure has ra bliss in it, but ra bliss is the whole pleasure thing. It's the source of the punishment and reward. It is beyond compare. It is the hit that God gave himself. It is ra bliss! There is nothing else like ra bliss because it has everything. It is everything. Ra bliss, ra bliss, ra bliss! Hotboy

Dave Morris said...

Categorically, and let me be perfectly clear, men cannot self stimulate through thought alone. I've taken yoga, relaxation exercises, mental control classes, meditation and had shock treatment. Some "waving of the wand" must occur. If it WERE possible, men would never get a full day of work done, they'd be sitting at their desk with knitted brow and eyes closed all day. haha!

As for birth control, look... I'd be happy to take a pill, but remember we're not allowed to make any decisions regarding a pregnancy. It's completely the woman's decision to carry it to term or not, to smoke, drink or not. It makes sense that the woman is required to make the (nearly) definitive decision as to whether she gets pregnant in the first place... whether via requiring the man to wear a condom, or to administer a pill/patch/iud.

Great subject, it's always good to read Lee Ann's thoughts on, uh, sexy topics.

zomba said...

Dear Lee Ann,

On a completely different topic, here's a question for you:

Who wrote "To die rich is to die disgraced"?

MM III

mojoala said...

Possible answer why there is not a blue pill for women. According to research statistics Men reach sexual peak at age 18 whereas women reach it at 30ish. So when a woman reaches the bottom of the hill of sexuality, she is already at the end of life? So the vast majority of women don't need the little blue pill?

Orgasm thru thought? Yes I did that once at the peak of my sexuality. Age 18 during the work week at boot camp. The woman I was thinking about was exceptional in her sexuality appearance.....

mojoala said...

Do not people do similarily the same thing during a "wet dream"?

Lee Ann said...

Ticharu ~ I bet you are fighting off beautiful women, it must be tiring! I like what you said about "Sexual dysfunction is mostly a result of bad diet, lack of excercise, natural aging process, mental hang-ups, brainwashing, and abuse. Some of that is self inflicted and most of that is stuff you can fix yourself."

Carl ~ good imagination! Yes! I agree that creativity is a good thing.

Hotboy ~ So you were part of the sexual revolution. Very cool! Female sexuality is definitely a wonderment!

Dave ~ You said exactly what I thought. That a man is respondent to the physical aspect of sex..."some waving of the wand" as you say. I like the way you put it. Some good thoughts on the "male birth control pill". Ultimately in the end, it is the woman who makes the determination about carrying the baby. I still feel the conception should be an equal decision between the man and woman.

Menzies Milngavie III ~ The answer to your question is the Industrialist and Philanthropist Andrew Carnegie! I will have to read and learn more about him now. He seems like an interesting man.

Carslemane Foraix ~ That is awesome. I think there is a reason for everything. Sounds like your wife did great.

mkecurler said...

Very cool post...and i see you keep some very cool company!The only thing, if guys get the pill, I'm sure it would be cheaper than what I'm paying now with my health plan!!!! Why is Viagra cheaper than my Pill prescription? Anyone?anyone?

Will stop by again!

Becky said...

I wonder why it is that we get the b.c. pills, and men get the sex enhancer drugs; so unfair! I want a sex enhancer drug, not that it's needed, actually it might be a little bit dangerous! Becky goes BUCK WILD!!! LOL :-D

Lee Ann said...

Sabatkes ~ Thank you for stopping by. Thanks, and I am not sure about the reason for the prices. At one point birth control pills were not covered by insurance, that is definitely cheaper than the alternative (having a child). I believe most plans cover the bc pills now. A lot of that doesn't make sense to me!

Becky ~ Wooo...you go girl!

Hotboy said...

Dead impressed by the Andrew Carnegie answer!! Who else knew that, apart from me? Alexander Berkman's 'Prison Memoirs of an Anarchist" was a favourite book of mine. Brilliant book. The boy had a menage a trois with Emma Goldman and shot Andrew's partner Frick because of Homestead. Bang, bang, I missed. Only in America!! Hotboy

Lee Ann said...

Hotboy ~ Thank you! :)
I read a couple of reviews on that book "Alexander Berkman's 'Prison Memoirs of an Anarchist", it looks very interesting.

Lee Ann said...

mojo ~ I guess I am not of the average statistic for age and peak! I think I am still climbing the mountain. Compared to my earlier years, I know I am still going upward. (I really don't think I have reached the summit yet). It may have a lot to do with partner. Just put it this way, in the past, the circumstances made me uninterested. I definitely cannot say the same for now. :) I just can't say enough on how good it is!
And Mojo, about your last question....I really do not know. That seems logical, but does your subconscious play a different role when you are dreaming, than your conciousness while awake? Good question.

Jef ~ Yes, women need the emotional aspect for sure. Tenderness is awesome. It is truly a difference which I have heard compared as microwave(men)vs. conventional oven (women). Good points Jef. The comment about self stimulation through thought...most likely men are designed this way so they don't have to live in a cabin with rubber sheets! hahaha! I wonder how the comparison of orgasm length is from man to woman! ;)

Spinning Girl said...

Hot Button Topic Alert!

Great post.

I think even if I could spontaneously combust at any point of the day, I would probably still save it for better times than in a room full of pre-pubes. I have a pretty rapid response, but I don't rub one out at every opportunity. Especially not at work! Something about sex & fluorescent lighting just don't mix. Unless you're behind the counter at the deli with the meat guy, and how often does taht happen--just once or twice a month!!!

It is possible to think your way to orgasm; especially during sleep.

I love sleep.

Too bad about all the pills. Maybe women care more about birth control since they're the ones who have to carry the burden, literally.

Oh, and spammers: here ya go !

Lee Ann said...

Spinning girl ~ You are great! I agree, there are a lot better places to experience that instead of work. Ha, especially for those of you that work around kids. Besides, it would seem that too much of a good thing makes it become too ordinary. Sleep, aw, it can be mighty powerful what your mind (and body)does during that time.
;)

Blake said...

I wouldn't mind switching places every now and again. Thinking about sex too much, having an overactive imagination isn't great all the time. Men struggle with lust and instant gratification when it comes to pleasure. Women are much more regal, tactful and thoughtful, for the most part, when it comes to sex. I wonder what it would be like to have that mindset, where emotions, and not the 'lil general, aided or held back my sexual function and activity.

Blake

Lee Ann said...

Blake, I completely understand what you are saying. My boyfriend is a "typical male". But he is the one that made me learn what it should be like, I love it and him:) It would be cool to trade the mindset (at least for one day).

Fred said...

“Behind the counter with the meat guy." Nice line, Spinning Girl. (I guess you could have left out the "guy" reference? Eww.)

Anyway, this has been an interesting discussion. I agree with everyone that girls are "touchy-feely" and guys are, well, um, err, guys. So, nothing to add there.

All the pills and stuff (LOL, I originally misspelled it as "stiff") are targeted to the guys simply because it was the easiest and most profitable way to go. Trying to tap into the emotional experience will not be easy, will cost tons of money, and may never happen. I’d be very surprised to see something like that anytime soon. So, to make a buck, our pharmaceutical companies took the easy route.

My humble opinion is that the internet has only made things worse. It was a better time prior to the 90’s when all the "easy sex" wasn't available. People actually had to talk to a live human being to settle their issues. Today, we communicate via email and voice-mail. That just doesn't cut it.

jiggs said...

I would totally take a birth control pill for men, but I think the solution that most men currently opt for is a vasectomy. My intuition suggests that that is a far superior method for male birth control. And if you live in Texas, you know that vasectomies can be reversed.

Now if they could make a chick viagra, that would be something. Do you think women would take it even if they had "normal" sexual functioning? I'm for anything that makes it easier for the ladies to reach that big O.

Was anyone else amused by the fact that Beverly Whipple rhymes with nipple?

And finally, one thing I can agree with the researchers on: Vagus is a great place for sex.

Also if they wanted to limit the noise in the brain scan machine, they could use some sort of device to automatically service the female orgasm. I've seen them on the internet.

Kay Ray said...

I totally agree with if there wasn't any PMS things would be different.. I only feel REALLY good (mood wise) about one week out of the month. Otherwise something is always feminly wrong with me.

As far as the pill goes.. I know i've heard several times over the years about the man pill.. I think they need to take some responsibility too.. I always laugh when people say "she trapped him" HELLO, he has control of the pipe!! ha ha

Lee Ann said...

Fred ~ You have me laughing with that misspelled as "stiff". I think you have a good point about the internet and how people communicate now. Gosh, remember when phone sex was first introduced (or should I say sort of advertised). I think that is a true example of what you are talking about.

Jiggs ~ Sometimes it takes more time for women to reach the "big O". Just remember it is so much of an emotional thing. (hopefully the guy won't get discouraged and give up). I have the feeling that it doesn't take as much concentration for a man to get there. Haha Jiggs, you are a true man to notice the name rhymes! I am sure my boyfriend would have noticed that too. I have never been to Vagus (Vegas) but I will take your word for it:) As long as the machine you saw on the internet doesn't make "movement" then it would work. (I think the movement is what creates the "background noise"). Thanks for all those good comments.

Kay Ray ~ Yes, there are a lot more things to maintain with a woman. I mean, there are medical plazas and hospitals dedicated just for women. But hey, I think it'a great being a girl. That is hilarious "holding the pipe"!

BeckEye said...

Hmm, I've had some dreams before that woke me right up! Those are thoughts, just unconcious ones.

If this whole orgasm thing is possible I guess the phrase, "I need time alone with my thoughts" will take on brand-new meaning. And of course, we'll all hear it more often. :)

My sister and I were just talking the other day about why there isn't a birth control pill for men. Seems like it would be easy enough...but then from a woman's point of view, she really could never be sure the guy was taking it. That might make some pretty nervous.

onan the bavarian said...

What a popular topic! It certainly got ChristianConservativeFreak going.

Another quote for you - who said "there's a fortune to be made by whoever invents something that can free mankind from the tyranny of sexual intercourse?"

I may not have the exact correct wording.

Lee Ann said...

BeckEye ! Haha, you are right about that time alone thing. With the birth control pills, the problem already exists for some men ~ wondering if the woman is taking "it". Either way, it would be interesting to see how the male birth control pill would work. (Maybe men would like it because then they wouldn't have the worries of the woman not taking it)!

John Bryson said...

I love it when you talk dirty

mojoala said...

my downward hill on sexuality is nearly level, it take me many, many years to reach the bottom....

Lee Ann said...

Robmcj ~ I am not sure who said that, was it Gandhi? Please tell me.
A good quote to go along with this post is from Oscar Wilde "In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."

Hey Madhatter ~ me too *blushing*

Lee Ann said...

Mojo ~ All right! Keep on keeping on! =)

Lee Ann said...

Diceman ~ Thanks for stopping by. All good points you bring. I just pose one question in reference to what you said..."but the thought of putting a man in a position where he is "shooting blanks" forces the man to question his identity and unfortunately the identity ascribed to a man that shoots blans is not a positive one." Is it possible that a man would rather be responsible for an unwanted pregnancy over a vanity issue? I almost think the man taking a birth control pill would give him more power to control! I think you are right in the whole of things. Thanks for your comments.

Carl Spackler said...

Nannbugg where the hell are you? no blog today?

Lee Ann said...

Hey Carl~I stayed up too late last night. No it wasn't for fun....getting auto insurance quotes. Only got a few hours of sleep. I am exhausted...wah wah! My brain is barely functioning enough to be at work today. I am glad you checked on me.

Hotboy said...

It's Frued, or Freud, or Fred. I can't spell since I started blogging. Anyway, it's just a view. Nothing the matter with being hot. Hotboy

Lee Ann said...

Hotboy ~ Aw, Sigmund! Very good!Are you referring to "there's a fortune to be made by whoever invents something that can free mankind from the tyranny of sexual intercourse?"
You are right, nothing the matter with being hot, hotboy!

Brooks Brown said...

this discovery by researchers clearly shows the night and day difference between the sexes and how we are wired. sex is more psychological with women no doubt about it and its going to take more than a blue pill increasing blood flow downtown to get really get a woman's motor running.

as far as that organsm by thought only, i'll have what she's having.

Brooks Brown said...

and lee ann i totally agree with you about cocaine. its a good thing i have never had access to it either. i think a lot of the heavy narcotic drugs, like heroine for example, have the same chemical brain effects as orgasm.

my brief, but wonderful experience with a demerol pump after a surgery was like an orgasm throughout my entire body. its a good thing they wheeled that bitch away because I never wanted that to end.

Lee Ann said...

echeevo72 ~ I think you just have to go into it whole heartedly. The more focus and less distraction, the greater the results. As far as those drugs that can replicate the brain function of an orgasm, I guess we are some of the lucky ones that don't have a dependency. I'll stick with my guy (the real thing) ;)

onan the bavarian said...

"The world’s books get written, its pictures painted, its statues modeled, its symphonies composed, by people who are free from the otherwise universal dominion of the tyranny of sex."

George Bernard Shaw

onan the bavarian said...

"I don’t see much of Alfred any more since he got so interested in sex."

Mrs. Alfred Kinsey

Spinning Girl said...

Wow, heavy comment action on this thread!

Rob Seifert said...

Having never done cocain or heroine, I can't speak to those. However, in my limited experience of 13 women, I'm reasonably sure that orgasm is about 95% mental, 5% technique. Lots of guys brag about having made a woman orgasm. I rather think of it as a privledge to have been trusted enough that a woman was able to orgasm while having sex with me.

Women seem to need to relax enough to allow it to happen. I think a wise man takes the time to help the woman feel comfortable and relaxed while gently raising the level of her arousal little by little. Sex is not about orgasm, it's about everything leading up to orgasm. You have to listen very carefully but most of the time, if you do, she'll tell you what she needs.

RCS

Rob Seifert said...

P.S. I'm all for a pill for men. My wife is currently trying to convince me to reverse my vasectomy because it doubles my risk of prostate cancer...

RCS

Lee Ann said...

RCS ~ Wow, you get it! I am truly impressed. I couldn't have said it better myself. (Wish we could publish what you said) ;)