Friday, July 14, 2006

Look for the Good! It is there!

Here is some advice I have heard. Some of it is really good. Some of it is easy to live by. Some of it may not seem probable. Some of it is my own advice to myself that I wanted to share….I don’t think it ever hurts to look for the good in someone!

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.It will be a truly rewarding experience. A note on expectations…. my Priest told me once, and I will never forget, “Do not have expectations of people and you won’t ever be disappointed”. Do you know how hard that is? I have tried. Just think of something, say for instance your birthday. Don’t you at least expect those that know it is your birthday to at least say “Happy Birthday”? That is some advice that is really hard to live by.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.Communication is key in a relationship. It doesn’t hurt to love the other stuff too :)

Look for the good in someone.When you are in a relationship, the longer you are with that person, the easier it is to see their faults. Always look for the good in someone, because it is there and that is what keeps a relationship going.

Don't believe all you hear.The media has been a good example of this. That might be one of my biggest problems, I have been told I am too trusting, however, I believe that is better than being one of those people that don’t believe anything.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.Those words should not be taken lightly…and I tell him EVERY DAY.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.It is important to say it when appropriate. Do not let pride stand in the way. No one is perfect.

Believe in love at first sight.I do! :)

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it is the only way to live life completely.You will never have it if you do not try. Give it everything you have.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name-calling.It is easy to say things in anger that you do not truly mean. It makes a cut deeper.

Don't judge people by their relatives!I know from my own family, that I am different from my brother and sister.

Talk slowly but think quickly.There is less chance you will say something you don’t mean.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?”Hahaha! Just a polite way of saying, “None of your business”.

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.If you want it, you have to go for it.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.We can learn from every situation.

Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.If you don’t respect yourself, no one else will. If you don’t have respect for others, don’t expect it from others. If you do it, own it.

Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.Pride, don’t let it stand in the way of a friendship or a relationship. We all have pride, but if you cherish your friends/relationship, it is not worth losing them over a dispute.

When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.It is better to reconcile a mistake than to let it go. People will have more admiration towards you.

Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.Sounds silly, but it is true. Just try it.

Spend some time alone.It is important to take care of yourself too.

Have a wonderful weekend.
I love you all.


ticharu said...

Sound advice all around but as the doctor is telling Kermit in yesterday's cartoon, 'Lee Ann, this may come as a bit of a shock'

I think we've all got a hand inside that makes the decisions for us don't we?

Lee Ann said...

Tich ~ It is a definite possibility!

rastaman said...

Babygirl! Rasta's been missin' ya.

Peace and hugs to you, Babygirl!

You are so special.

Hey, Tich! Nice to see you.

The Husband said...

that was very thoughtful.

have a great weekend!

Fred said...

I should post these in my classroom. Especially the one about "I'm sorry."

Have a great weekend!

AndyW said...

I'm a strong believer in the last one.
We need alone time and need to be able to be by ourselves and be happy before we can be happy with someone else.

Friends of McDougal said...

I think I nodded off for a while ...

How you been?

Good advice here.

Does the foot shot count as this week's HNT?

Know where I can score some Tryptophan?

Otis said...

Lee are wise.

Personally, I appreciate your kindness!

I hope your weekend is safe and fun!

Angela said...

What wonderful advice. No wonder you have such a following. Have an awesome weekend.

Lee Ann said...

Rasta ~ Babygirl has missed you Rasta.
~peace and hugs to you too.

Carl ~ You are thoughtful, thank you, have a good weekend too.

Fred ~ I think there is some good advice there, most definitely. You have a good weekend too!

Lee Ann said...

Andy ~ Yes, that is true!

McDougal ~ Hey! I am good, it has been a while, I have missed you.
Ahhh, the HNTs....
Just come by the castle later, I will roast a turkey for you! I will put it in the secret room behind the boathouse...

Lee Ann said...

Otis ~ Thank you, that is so sweet of you, and I appreciate you as well. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

Angela ~ Thank you so much. I hope you have an awesome weekend too.

angel, jr. said...

I've tried to live by the rule of finding the good in everyone. I discovered this little treasure when I first read "The Diary of Anne Frank". In it she said something like she believed that people are really good at heart. I try to live by that motto.
So far so good. But I have my days when I still either stereo-type or assume certain characteristics. If we are ever going to achieve peace, we have to get over those prejudices and get back to that belief that everyone is human and has a good heart.
I know, a little naieve right?

Osbasso said...

Some wonderful stuff. Hope you're living by most of them!

Lee Ann said...

Angel ~ No, I think that is wonderful. I think we both share the same philosophy of life.
Have a great weekend!

Lee Ann said...

Os ~ I am trying! ;)

Shannon said...

"Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any"

Words to live by!!

I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee this lifehouse song.. I am staying until it's over!!

john said...

i'm stayin' too ...for the ice cream !

Ellen said...

All good sound advise, all hard to live by, and all worth the effort to do so.

Very nicely done, especially your comments... and I see you as a person who lives by this practice.

Have a wonderful weekend... and pray for more rain in our parts of the south. Have you noticed how nice the Crepe Myrtles are looking again this year?

Heather said...

The 3 R's is my favorite.

Hope you have a great weekend, sweetie.

Saur♥Kraut said...

I love The Fairy Godmother's Version. ;o)

hotboy said...

The last one ... spend some time alone ... yeah! Do a lot of that! Hotboy

Lee Ann said...

Shannon ~ Isn't that the truth? Please come stay at the Castle anytime, as much as you like! Have a great weekend.

John ~ Always room for ice cream! ;)

Ellen ~ Thank you. Yes, I like all of that advice. Some of it is mine, but I have enjoyed reading all of them over and over. Yes, it is a little dry in this area, isn't it! Yes, I have noticed the Crepe Myrtles are very lovely! Have a wonderful weekend Ellen.

Lee Ann said...

Heather ~ I like that one too! I hope you have a great weekend as well!

Saur ~ Oh yes, I like that. In fact, so much that I decided since I had so many new and different visitors from a long time ago, that some posts are worth repeating!

Hotboy ~ Oh you are right about that! I know it is important, but you are very disciplined!

lecram sinun said...

Lee Ann, all wonderful and true. :) Thanks for the reminder.

BuccoTom said...

Sage advice from a beautiful woman. words to live by. Have a great one yourself girl. Love ya.

robmcj said...

I've thought of another one that I use. It's a bit like your "When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer ... "

When someone offers you a criticism that you don't feel like having to defend, smile and say, "Is that what you think?”

A polite way of saying, “I don't agree but I don't need to persuade you”.

jiggs said...

have a great weekend!

One point of disagreement, though. You should definitely have expectations of people that you're close to. it's not a relationship with a person if they don't also participate.

Goan Pao said...

All i need to know i can learn from this post...but learnings the hard part....
You could contest for Dr Phils Job...

twolf1920 said...

Good POSITIVE advice LeeAnn! You go Gurl!

jamwall said...

like i always expect jiggs casey to torture me with the electric cattleprod on my birthday.

truckdriver_sefl said...

Great advise Lee Ann!!

Have a wonderful weekend!

Lee Ann said...

Lecram ~ Thank you, glad to see you over here.

TG ~ Thank you very much, you too Tommy.

Rob ~ Yes, you are definitely right. Very good. Hope your neck is feeling better.

Jiggs ~ Yes, that one is very difficult for me! It is hard to not have ANY expectations from others. However, I understand what my priest was saying, that you will not be dissappointed if you have no expectations. I totally agree that there needs to be participation from each person in a relationship.

Lee Ann said...

Goan Pao ~ A lot of these I have heard and I like very much. Only a few are from me!

T ~ ;)

Jams ~ When is your birthday Jams?

Trucker ~ Thank you, you too!

Killdare said...

That's good advice. Our communication has become rather monotonous sadly.

Lee Ann said...

Killdare ~ I understand.

Lee Ann said...

Killdare ~ Cute pun!
I am not sure if that is the case... that is so very nice of you to say, really!

Killdare said...

Thanks, sorry to air this on your blog, didn't know where else to say it. But I meant it. ;-)

Jason said...

When are you running for office?

Lee Ann said...

killdare ~ thank you so much, I DO appreciate what you said.

Jason ~ You are cute!

BallerinaGurl said...

Hello sweet Lee Ann! Words to live by for sure. I have that in an email somewhere. I stand behind several of them, especially who you marry and how you fight with them!!! Make the world of difference.

Hope you are having a great weekend. I am hosting a chat tomorrow. Will post more details on my blog late tonight about it!


Lee Ann said...

Ballerinagirl ~so good to see you!
Thank you, you have a great week!